You Are Being Respected?
Self-respect involves forgiving yourself for past mistakes and establishing healthy boundaries for yourself and others.
When your mentor asks you to do something for him or her, you do it as quickly as you can and even go far ahead to do it better.
But when you tell yourself that you’re going to start working on your own brand or on something similar, you don’t.
Why? Why is it that you go out of your way to make space and accommodate for things that others ask you to do but when it comes to making the same space for yourself, you find yourself making excuses?
Even when it’s your leisure, you find yourself spending the day being guided by the whims of your friends or end up being an emotional dumping ground for them. You have no authority over your own life and accept shitty excuses and relationships because you do not realize that you deserve better. Which eventually makes you complacent and stop striving for greater things.
Honestly, we’re all great people. But the trouble is, we don’t realize it. We’re too busy undermining our own worth that we’re not questioning how others are treating us. Sometimes, we will move mountains for someone who won’t even look us straight in the eye. We will make excuse after excuse for people who will throw us under the bus at the first sight of trouble.
To put it bluntly, these are signs that you’re a people pleaser and you need to build more self-respect. It’s time to stop giving a shit about what people think of you and start drawing more boundaries to reclaim your personal sovereignty. Everyone you look up to has taken ownership of what sets them apart.
Having self-respect entails the deep-seated belief that you are deserving of fair and courteous treatment. It signifies taking pride in your identity and embracing your flaws and imperfections. Self-respect involves forgiving yourself for past mistakes and establishing healthy boundaries for yourself and others. It's the invaluable gift we grant ourselves when we shift our focus from seeking external approval to living a life characterized by authenticity and personal integrity.
Trauma and abuse can significantly erode self-respect. The individuals who inflicted harm upon you failed to show respect, leading you to internalize feelings of unworthiness. Escaping this cycle is a formidable challenge, but it can be a transformative journey.
When you have a clear understanding of your self-worth, you refuse to let anyone, including your partner, treat you as a doormat. You won't tolerate being walked over or seeking validation from others, recognizing that this weakens you. Through self-awareness, you'll become your own authority, firmly in control of your life.
Prioritize yourself and start taking action. Step on the accelerator and propel forward. It's not about waiting for motivation; it's about generating momentum. Allocate time to invest in self-improvement, because if you don't, someone else will hijack your time for their benefit. The most profound form of loneliness is when you discover you're not at ease in your own skin.
Value yourself enough to distance yourself from anyone or anything that doesn't bring you joy or contribute to your growth. Many people tend to prioritize the needs of others ahead of their own but to truly respect others, you must first fulfil your own needs. How can you genuinely appreciate others if you can't appreciate yourself first?
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